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    Life's too short to leave the important words unsaid!! consider things left unsaid and my thoughts unexpressed that may be valuable to u...& I promise you will have precious time !!!

    Saturday 31 December 2016

    Happy New Year 2017


    Looking back on the months that has gone by,
    As a new year starts & an old one ends,
    We contemplate what brought us joy,
    And we think of our loved ones & our friends.
      
    Recalling all the happy times,
    Remembering how they enriched our lives,
    We reflect upon who really counts,
    As the fresh & bright New Year arrives.

     And when we ponder on those who did,
    I immediately think of you.
    Thanks for being one of the reasons.
    We’ll have a happy New Year!




    With smiles...
    Swathi  ๐Ÿ’™

    (Investing myself completely in the art of living)

    Resolution of the year 2017!!




    "The character is the ability to carry out a good resolution long after the excitement of the moment has passed."


                                                       
    Let’s hope”
    “Let’s see”
    “I’ll give a try”
    “I’ll try”
    These are the phrases that have become a part of my daily vocabulary. My mother implores, “Won’t you give a second thought?”

    Again my obvious answer will be, “I’ll try”

    I don’t even have the inkling of the implications of using these deadly phrases. My mother warns me that these words will have a serious impact on my behaviour & attitude. She used to curse it as the most disempowering words that my tongue rolls out often.

    Whenever I use these words in situations where clear decisions are being desperate of, I get a lecture from her for half an hour at least! And I say it because I want to be polite so as not to hurt the other person. But she alleged that this dishonest statement will weaken me & turn against me one or the other day!



    She believes that there are only two options for anything in life either we take action or don’t and, ironically scolds me that I have a clever mind & smart enough to create one more path which is fuzzy and unclear and that is to say the directionless statement, “I’ll try”. She at times yells me like I have a cunning mind avoiding commitments by preferring to sit on the wall without taking any stand on the matter so that can jump the either side.

    She emphatically and authoritatively concludes that “I’ll try” is the sure way to stagnation and progress comes of clarity that is clear “Yes” or “No”. So, I’m not going to tell, “I’ll try “again but just going to do it taking a clear resolution and thereby implement from 2017.
    For those who are with the same attitude, “I’ll try “attitude (escapism attitude of mine), I have broken my mind and gathered the lectures of my mother & have shortlisted for you. It will be better for you too, to take a resolution after a complete justification and satisfaction as well.

    "You say “I’ll try “means, your mind has already put the issue in the back-burner. It has become the last priority.”I’ll try “mode is a disempowering state of mind, resulting from insufficient motivation & power. The mind may develop a laid-back attitude. It shifts the attitude to a low-key mode assuring non-committal state. Being in such non-committal states of mind will weaken us over a period of time. It shows your inability to take a risk. It keeps your self-image intact  & this is the self-deception at its worst.
    The only way of being powerful & in control of life is to be committed, which means by saying either “Yes” or “No”, and not 
    “I’ll try”. Commitment is a source of personal power & without it, self- mastery can never be achieved.
    Well, you may ask about certain situations where you cannot give a commitment. In that case, Say”No”.That is also empowering because you’re clear in your mind that you cannot do it. There is no dishonesty here. To say
    ,” I’ll try” when you know in your heart that you’re not going to lift a finger is inauthentic. But doing it as a daily job will have serious repercussions in the long run.
    In case if you can tell “Yes” or “No”, state the exact factual position you are subjected to. There will be no ambiguity here for both when the spaces are clear. Real power comes when you say “Yes” 
    against all odds and in doing it.
    The chances of success are far better when you come from an empowering space. Even if you don’t succeed at first, keep coming from the empowering space of commitment, again & again, no matter how long it takes. The only thing that ultimately matters, in the long run, is the space where you come from”


    But that’s right! An ambivalent mind is a hesitating mind, unsure of itself. Hence, I have decided to take this resolution for the year 2017 & Swathi will no more have a disempowering state of mind, no insufficient motivation, no laid back attitude, no non-committal state & particularly no escapism!!(he ..he..). 
    With smiles.....
    Swathi ๐Ÿ’š
    (Investing myself completely in the art of living)


    Thursday 29 December 2016

    The best lesson of 2016

    The best lesson I learnt in 2016 is that,

    “We can never judge our past with today’s maturity& we should learn from our past by understanding it with today’s maturity.”   

    We had been friends for years. Though our approach to each & everything in life and our likes & dislikes was the same, we‘d huge misunderstandings with each other because of three things that I feel is entirely my fault.



    First, in the relationship of two (me and my EX bestie) I somewhere knowingly or unknowingly left the third person to poke her nose in our issues.

    Second, though I  had a great care and love for her& her life, the way I expressed it to her was little harsh.

    Third, I never ended the arguments left unsolved and fruitlessly carried it to the next day. Often we walked out on each other right in the middle of the discussion, leaving the other seething with rage, with that precise intention.

    On countless occasions, I felt she was not as she used to. These happened in the transition period of grade 11 & 12.But in the same period, we also had some wonderful moments together during the lunches & dinner without speaking a word or exchanging glares, feeling only the warmth of each other sitting beside. They were almost like the proverbial needle in the haystack kind of a thing. All our struggles to continue our friendship fetched us a lot of heartaches exactly before three years.

    The woe is I thought all those memories have left a very bad taste in both our mouths. But it is not so! The past has hung like an albatross over me alone because somewhere around August of this year, I called her in a deep chaos and regret  & when I queried something about the misunderstandings we had, she replied these exact words in a sarcastic tone,”hey....It has been around three years & how could you expect me to remember all that stuff I had with you”
    Her tone & the words let me in a shock. But then I was able to get a clear vision that 
    I cannot rewrite the past. I can only ensure a wonderful present and a glorious future.

    In the 2nd standard, I scored 85 in arithmetic. If I am given the same question paper today, I will score full marks. But how can I compare my arithmetic scores in class two with today’s maturity? 
    I will be a fool to do so. So, circumstances prevailed once may be ridiculously simple for me today. I believe that I‘ve grown mature with the passage of time.

    So, I learnt the idea how to salvage bliss& happiness, love & affection from the debris of bad experiences and I think this is the best lesson I learnt in 2016.

    With smiles...
    (Investing myself  completely in the art of living)


    Best moments -2016

    A Complete life is a collection of happy moments & the best way to pay for a lovely moment is to enjoy it. So, I would like to open the kimono of my diary for the best moments in 2016.Have a happy reading!

    Feeling the magic!




    Magicians are the most honest people in the world; they tell you they are gonna fool you & then they do it.He..he... We’ve all seen on television regularly or on some occasions, experts doing magic, waving their magic wand & with that black hat.I too have watched in reality shows and talk shows but in 2016 it’s really a great experience for me with that guy.

    Yeah! Mr.Ashok.He is by profession a magician & hypnotist but offers placement training for students as a part time job. We had two sessions & for one session he called a boy to perform magic & in the second, he called any girl to come forward & I went. Seeing the magic happening somewhere via television is nothing tantalising than that happens before my eyes that too played with me. So that was one of the best moments in 2016.
























    Visit to ISRO!


    During every semester, my college arranges for an industrial visit as a part of its curriculum. But this year we went to ISRO, Sriharikota.(Rocket launch centre operated by ISRO) & I learnt so many exciting things. That was the dazzling trip of all the industrial visits we had before.


    Being granted as state First!




    Every year in honour of Teacher’s day, the government state associations conduct various competitions like essay writing, art, writing poems etc., 
    This year my poem for the given title “my dream classroom” hit the first prize in district and state as well. I got this cup & certified. 
     It also fetched me an astonishing moment in 2016.







    Re-entry of Ms.Lena!


    Ms.Lena was my intimate bestie during my school days & of course even today! But we happened to depart for our high school. After completing my high school, I tried all the ways of contacting her but I can't. While after months I came to know that she had been to Oman due to her father’s transfer. I then lost hope & didn’t make any move further. But this year one fine day, she somehow has gone through my profile in social networking sites & gave me a surprise I ever had. My best friend’s re-entry happened this year that added an additional feather to the glory of 2016 in my life.








    Blogging my passion!

    Yeah! Blogging is my passion. But everything in life will take its own time to happen & it happened this year that made 2016 much wonderful to me!

    Chetan Bhagat’s novel!




    My fondness for reading books is eternal. This year I read three books completely & of those that one, made me more delighted is Chetan Bhagat’s  " The three mistakes of my life”.
    Gosh! He has such an amazing fun and piece of writing in him. It was really fabulous & incredible. Within 2017, I wish to be relished & cherished with his other books.



    My little tribute to the great era!

    Yeah! All the above best moments fetched me an avalanche of happiness. But this is the one that suppressed me in doldrums of grief. Drawing & painting is my favourite hobby ever& this year I drew four pictures but this is little different 'cause it made me bereaved.So, I did it with much worries & this art I dedicate to the great era who is no more, Ms.Jayalalitha.It is special to me still.....because it’s not just my art, but my deep condolences for her demise.







    These are just the 
    " 7 wonders " ,but I had much more joyful moments this year.So,I thank the almighty for such beautiful days & wish the same by 2017.

    With smiles...
    (Investing myself completely in the art of living)